Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Breakfast, Kids, GTD = Great vacation day




There are a couple things that I really love:

(1) My wife

(2) My kids

(3) Breakfast

(4) Practicing the art of living - with a focus and appreciation for small "wins"

This post is about items (2) + (3) + (4).

From my vantage point, GTD is one of the best games around to help you lead a life of small wins. I have two children: Conrad (7) and Hannah (10). We have breakfast together almost every day. It is from this precious "zone" in my day that I listen, teach and learn.

This is also where we practice the the art of living and where I get to experiment with GTD with my kids - but I do not use the GTD language... at least I try not too.

Here is an example.

The scenario:
I am taking the day off from work to spend time with the kids while they are on school vacation.

Here is a summary of the breakfast scene with the kids highlighting the GTD principles:

Dad: It is time to pull out our portable Think-a-torium (that is our code word for a blank piece a paper).

Kids: Why?

Dad: We need to capture all our ideas on what we could do today. [GTD - Getting our gear ready for the capture phase]

We now have a piece of paper next to our cereal bowls...

Dad: Let's see how many ideas we can write down in 1 minute. Ready? Go!

Kids and Dad write frantically. [GTD - we are capturing]

Conrad (7): I don't know what to write?

Dad: Just draw a picture then. Draw a picture of what you want us to do. [drawing in pictures has worked well for Conrad. I guess the apple does not fall far from the tree! ;) ]

Hannah: I am ready.

Dad: okay... let's hear all the ideas. [GTD - Clarify phase. Also, positive reinforcement for the kids]

Dad: Hannah, before we start what is my favorite quote about ideas?

Hannah: (roll of the eyes) "you have to have lots of ideas, even real clunkers, to find the good ideas."

Dad: That's right. It is about how many Thinks you can Think (from Dr. Seuss)

Kids share ideas

Dad's feedback:
"Cool..."
"Nice one..."
"How would we do that one?..."
"Tell me more about that..."
"That is a crazy idea... I love it!"

Dad: Wow! You guys never cease to amaze me. Where do you get all these crazy ideas! These are great.

Dad: Let's try to piece together a plan for today based on these ideas. Hannah, can you draw a schedule for today? [GTD - preparing for the organizing phase; we hand draw a calendar for the day]

Hannah (10): Sure.

Dad: What are the top three things we want to do?

Kids discuss, debate and select. Dad steps into mediate as needed but I try to stay out.

Dad: How much time will we need for each and when do you want to do them? [GTD- we are figuring out our "hard landscape and soft landscape" items.]

The kids block off time on the schedule, we write "next actions" on a separate piece of papaer (e.g. call friend to see if they want to join us).

Dad: (holding up the schedule that the kids made) This looks like a great day.

Dad: (whispering) Can I tell you a secret? The Think-a-torium is a magic tool. You can use it any time and any place. I am always amazed how it is blank one moment and filled with great ideas the next.

Kids: Dad, you are weird!

Dad: Absolutely...!

We carry around our plan for the remainder of the day.

Dad: (in the front seat of the car) Hannah and Conrad what is next on our schedule?

At the end of the day...

Dad: Hannah and Conrad let's take a look at our day. That was a great day. What was your favorite part?

Great discussion. I use this time to listen and try to understand what the kids naturally enjoy. This could be a clue to one of their strengths.

As you can see we used GTD yet made up our own crazy words for some things. Yet, best of all, we had a day full of adventures and smiles. The power to pull this off again is one Think-a-torium session away!

9 comments:

James Marwood said...

Great post Mike, and an awesome way to inculcate GTD thinking in your kids. Thanks for posting!

Chris Blatnick said...

Spectacular post, Mike! It was great attending your panels at the GTD Summit. I'm in the initial stage of teaching my two teens about GTD. I think starting early like you've done (and not bogging them down with the terminology) will yield fantastic results for your kids. What a great gift to give to them! Thanks for sharing.

Mike Williams said...

James and Chris,

Thank you for your comments. Glad you enjoyed the post.

I look forward to following your blogs, too.

Mike

Jakub Jurkiewicz said...

This is just great! Thanks for sharing!

Volker said...

Awesome, man. You truely do (2).

Brent said...

Fantastic post! Awesome to see a great Dad, applying solid advice in a kid-friendly way.

I can imagine kids loving ticklers. ;-)

fabio said...

Mike,

I'm ecstatic! I've been frantically looking for GTD parents because there are 4 thing I love:
1) My wife
2) My kids
3) small wins(GTD included)
4) big wins (GTD included)
and your post is clearly about 2, and 3, but to me it's also about 4

God bless

Fabio Henri

Mike Williams said...

Hello all,

Thanks for taking time from your busy day to send your note. I really enjoyed them.

Kids, family and GTD... make for an exciting and interesting journey.

There is always interesting "stuff" showing up! ;)

KariY said...

Your kids are fortunate to be learning these skills and tools at a young age!